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My Memoir Is Almost Ready!

When Sex Meets God: a midlife story. 


At thirty-eight, Deborah’s life as a mom, professional, and wife felt so right she ignored the twinge of discontent one day on a power walk with her young children. Ten years later, it all fell apart – marriage, her business, and her son said he didn’t want to live. After eighteen months of trying to fix things, she surrendered to doing the one thing she said she would never do, but getting divorced unleashed demons that her twenty-four-year marriage had protected her from. 


An irrational calling to pursue a MA/PhD in the field of depth psychology became Deborah’s mentor as she navigated the vulnerable process of healing wounds that had been buried– a warped relationship between her sexuality and spirituality. 


The younger men showed up right on cue as her curriculum to come into deeper relationship with her body and sexuality, and then came the  ironic, passionate, and complex relationship with another younger man that forced a reckoning deep inside her. Surrendering to the awkwardness and vulnerability brought the reward of new heights of ecstasy and depths of meaning. 


The ultimate reward for having the courage to let it all go, to withstand the discomfort and shame of going against the grain, to find truth for herself, to reconcile what had seemed to be in opposition was finding a new sense of purpose and unleashing creatively. 


What happens when Sex meets God? You become a willing vessel for creative intelligence to flow through you to create what only you and it can create together. 

The Discovery of You

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Do you really know yourself? I want to get you excited about exploring the most important final frontier–your inner world. Like an iceberg, most of you is unknown, even to you. 

I skipped through my twenties and thirties so sure of myself. At forty-seven, it was like a trick had been played on me. Standing at the podium to receive an award, I ended my remarks with, “I make a difference walking around being me.” Tears came when I felt a deep knowing that it was true, and then I surrendered to the kind of sobbing you don’t want to have in front of a hundred people. 


In that Soul-making moment, I realized that beneath my commitment to making the world a better place was an unconscious drive for validation. This truth was harder to swallow, and it lay the groundwork for what came next–midlife unraveling.  

Has something in your life fallen apart? Do you crave more meaning and purpose? Maybe you're struggling with divorce, addiction, job loss, or depression. If you could think your way out of it, you probably would have overcome the challenges that remain. 


Science affirms that unconscious forces direct up to ninety percent of our patterns of thinking and behaving, our emotional reactions, and even who we're attracted to.


Let me teach you the language of the unconscious so you can hear and decode its messages and unleash potentials you didn't even know existed. 

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